As baby gets closer to arrival, the nerves are starting to set in. It’s so much easier to not worry when a major change is so far off in the distance. Now that my due date is less than 3 weeks away, my anxiety is building. There are some plans that are still up in the air.
What will we do about childcare?
What type of work schedule will I have?
I thought I had the answers to those questions figured out, until recently when I learned that they are making changes to schedules at work. My plan was to work the same type of schedule I did with my daughter but that may no longer be an option. Just when I thought I had all the answers, it seems as though God is shaking things up. AGAIN.
See, we’ve been down this road before. I’m a planner and I like to be in control. I do not enjoy having to depend on others and not have details figured out. And that is exactly what God has been working with me on. I am continually being placed in situations where I am no longer in control so that my faith in God can be stretched.
What I am learning from these experiences with God is different ways to help ease my anxiety when it comes to an unknown future.
Look to the Past
When I was pregnant with my daughter, we faced a similar situation. We were in need of a babysitter but we had no family in the area. It was not until a month after my daughter was born that we finally got the answer we needed. My sister offered to move from Florida to care for my daughter.
After two years of having my sister with us, it was time for a change. She was ready to move on to pursue her own career and we were again faced with the unknown. It was not until a week before my sister was to leave that we got our answer again. This time it was my sister-in-law who agreed to take care of our daughter.
The question now is how I can find a schedule that works for the changing needs of my family. The more I think about it and try to figure out answers, the more anxious I become. I constantly need to remind myself that I can let go and put it in God’s hands because it will all work out just like it had in the past.
Look to the Word
Another way that I am learning to help ease my anxiety is by studying God’s Word in that area. Since I was having trouble with fear and anxiety I searched for scripture related to those terms. Here are a few of the scriptures that I found to be helpful:
- Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken. (Psalm 55:22)
- Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. (1 Peter 5:7)
- When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought me joy. (Psalm 94:19)
- Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. (Matthew 6:34)
- So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. (Isaiah 41:10)
- I can do all this through him who gives me strength. (Philippians 4:13)
I feel this one is pretty self-explanatory and by far the most important. Every time I pray about the situation, God uses different methods of helping me find peace by showing me scripture or an inspirational quote, hearing a teaching related to that area, or reminding me of previous circumstances in my life where everything worked out ok.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6-7 NIV)
It is a continual process and I still have a long way to go when it comes to fearing the unknown but the good news is I am learning and growing. I have this wonderful relationship with God where I know that he loves me and will continue to help me. I still find myself filled with anxiety and fear from time to time but compared to a few years ago, I know that I can find peace even without the answers I am looking for.
God is in control and I don’t have to be.